I Just Got Beat Up
Posted by harlan on 27 May 2008 at 02:57 pm | Tagged as: talking to the void
Back when I first started my new job, I ran across a guy who works in the same building (not the same company). Since I didn’t give this guy a cheery smile, a salute, and a how-do-ya-do, he decided it was his right / obligation to insert himself into my life by telling me that I had dropped my smile, and had better pick it up.
Honestly, I do not understand how the theory of evolution allows for people who are nothing but asshole.
Anyway, I saw this guy again today, in the office condo parking lot. And while last time I saw him I was too shy and humiliated to reply to his unwarranted intrusion, that is no longer the case. He was walking toward the building from his car; I was walking to my car from the building. He did a Zig Ziggler-inspired smile and wave, and I said, “You should just leave people alone. Whether I am smiling or not is none of your concern.”
Or words to that effect. I think in the moment I might have stumbled a bit on the actual phrasing.
“I beg your pardon?” he replied. Who says “I beg your pardon?” Does he think he’s Jimmy Stewart or something?
So I explained to him, “The last time you saw me, you told me I had dropped my smile and to pick it up. You had no right to say anything like that. For all you know, my sister might have just died.” I wish.
“Hey, buck up there, little camper.” Yes, he really said that. I am dead serious. Which turns out to be a good thing, because the correct response occurred to me right there.
“Hey, fuck off there, you big asshole.” And then I pushed him. Palms out, against the chest. A get-out-of-my-face gesture.
And then he punched me. Three punches, only one of which I sort of deflected. Sternum, stomach, throat. I kind of blocked the one coming at my face, which is why it hit me in the throat.
I’m not absolutely certain, but I think it would have hurt worse if the blow had hit me in the face. Still, getting hit in the throat hurts a lot.
I sat down in the parking lot. I couldn’t breathe. For a minute I thought I was going to die. Then I was able to breathe again, and I was sure he had broken a rib.
The doctor says nothing’s broken, though. Just a bruise.
Mary says I should press charges, but I just want to put this episode behind me.
wow. I don’t understand how you justify any of what you did. pushing someone means “fight” (in case you didn’t know).
I think this is how evolution allows for assholes. Especially big ones who don’t hesitate to use their fists.
Moshizzle hit that one on the proverbial head. Is an increased tendency to be an aggressive asshole a known side effect of Celexa?
And the asshole in this instance would be. . . ?
Press charges? Better leave well enough alone since you started it. I wouldn’t be surprised if he slaps you with a battery charge because you damn well deserve it.
You’d think the Celexa would kinda take the sting out of your first encounter with this guy. Maybe you need to adjust your meds.
Put the crack pipe up while you’re at it.
Yeah, pressing charges equals bad when you are the instigator of the physical stuff, regardless of what was said.
For some reason I picture this guy wearing a sports jacket and sunglasses all the time. The thing about douche jock guys is you don’t try to fight them because they are generally not too bad at it; hence the epic throat-punching.
……and they all lived Happily Ever After.
As if!!
I wonder what the pollyanna crowd will have to say about Harlan’s conduct this time around. Go Harlan Go.
Where’s Jaydon? Come on dude. Lets hear you praise this douche bag for wishing his sister was dead and assaulting some innocent guy that made an off handed remark.
If this really happened Harlan would be 6 feet under.
bitch, you crazy.
if it ain’t immediate, it ain’t a good comeback!
shoulda left it alone. maybe your throat wouldn’t hurt so much.
on that note… my poor baby :( you’re gonna be okay !!
That’s hilarious! His punching you could not relieve the pressure that you must have felt that you released when you told him to ‘fuck off’. Congrats Harlan! You have grown a mighty fine pair of balls!
He knew how to fight. That’s a classic 1-2-3 shot. You should learn it if you are going to instigate a fist-to-cuffs.
What I have to say is…
GO HARLAN GO!!!!!
I wish I wasn’t a short little girl so that I could beat someone’s ass once in a while.
Amy, dear, you’re more falooda than fight club.
What?
Gee. Wonder what will hapen next time you see him.
Usually it is a bad idea to try to tell someone what you should have said weeks or months before. If the right answer didn’t come to your mind at the moment, it’s a goner. Probably the guy didn’t even remember about the smile dropping incident… So your punchline (uh) is expired.
Interesting, good thing you didn’t hit him back or HE could have pressed charges since you initiated the assault.
Harlan, I’m glad you feel like you can speak freely, but you might start to do a little censoring, just to preserve the peace and not be a dork. The guy is probably a dumbass, but maybe he wasn’t trying to be mean, maybe he’s just stupid to tell you to pick your smile up. Maybe he’s a Ned Flanders who means well, but can still fight. If I’m not mistaken, NEd can kick some ass.
Harlan - Your the asshole here. wtf? I wish he did break a rib, broke your nose, etc etc. God your a prick now.
Doesn’t sound like something you would do. Consider talking with your prescribing physician about side effects. There may be a medication that will give you the same benefits but not make you so impulsive. You are legally responsible for your behavior, even under medication. Also, you could get yourself killed.
Oh my. Harlan, are you getting a glimmer that a better title for this post might be “I Just Got Beat Up ‘Cause I Asked For It”? Your increasing confidence with aggression is better tested on the raquetball court, and you could save the quick comebacks for the FedEx girl.
So very much a jerk…just like everyone else. All have our moments - admittedly some more than others. Another handy outcome of evolution; better jerk radar and avoidance skills.
Press charges. You shouldn’t have said anything, or shoved but I don’t see how one shove should equal an all out attack. Especially when he’s been nothing but Mr. Chipper until this point.
YOUR SO FULL OF SHIT, THIS STORY CANNOT BE TRUE, YOUR SUCH A PHONEY AND A LIAR!
I take back what I said before, consult a lawyer before pressing charges. I can’t get a clear picture of what happened but it sounds like this guy is dangerous.
There’s this guy at my work; every time he walks by my desk he says, “WAKE up!” It’s annoying. But you know what I do? I deal with it. You know what I don’t do? I don’t yell, “SHUT up!” and shove him against a wall. People are annoying and people are jerks. Ignore them; don’t join them.
lol - I am sorry I find this story funny. I am glad you got your ass beat. H you can be happy and not be a dick at the sametime. Now grow up and learn you cant fight worth shit so you shouldn’t run your mouth.
Really Harlan turn that frown upside-down mmk.
ps. Heard from Richard latley?
is fighting a probation violation?
lol.. this Celexa really has an effect on you..
I like the aggressiveness it brings out in you, maybe next time wait when it’s a full moon so the wolverine in you comes out so you won’t get your ass kicked.
A lawyer would tell you to stay away from the big a**hole. If you confront the big a**hole again, prison for you is a possible outcome. Anytime you lay your hands on someone, you could end up in prison. People do not manhandle other people because it is deserved; they do it because they think they can get away with it. Often their assessment of the possible outcomes is incorrect. Hence prisons are crowded. Which means no private suite for you. Definitely a roomate.
Room-mate.
Don’t you all just feel the next post being all ‘I’m sorry, I really didn’t get beat up’?
if you were going to call the cops you should have done it yesterday & he would have went to jail. you wait too long to do anything, so do nothing. considering that you held a grudge over a stupid remark, I can’t imagine what getting beat up is going to fester in you. are you going to shoot him now?
This sounds a lot like a movie I saw once. I just can’t think of thi title right now, but anyway the guy goes on to learn self defense but doesn’t go through with the fight challenge at the end. Did you watch that movie over the weekend Harlan? Anyway I would leave the police out of it considering you are on probation…
lilly - thats an aware so very alone reader.. i would not be surprised…
It is a strange one with the aggression Harlan -
I’ve had people tell me to ‘find my smile’ many
times. At one point in my life, I asked more
than a few people why they needed me to smile..
Silly Billy, I hate to say it - but Harlan isn’t the first
one who didn’t like his sibling enough to ‘write’
what he did about his sis.
I’m not a fighter, Harlan, Better to be a lover
than a fighter, so find that smile, dammit!
Serious advice - stay away from this guy - You did
throw the first punch, so you’re the one who would
ultimately be charged, not to mention the probation
(wait, I just did)
LOL, always remember - a smile is just a frown turned
upside down . Oh, wait, and it takes less muscles to
smile, blah, blah, blah…
I know you’re smiling now, Harlan.
Keep it up.
Harlan, you have restored my faith. You are indeed an asshole, top to bottom, drugged or not, your a fucking class A asshole, oops, I mean Asshole, with the capital A.
Can you do me a favor, and get this guys email for me, I’d like to send him a nice thank you note. Oh, and perhaps you aren’t familiar with legal action, the second you pushed him you escalated the altercation to a level of physical confrontation, he punched you, and can easily claim “self defense” since you did indeed push him first. Worst thing would be you might both get a simple assault charge. But, I’m betting you’d really get your ass kicked after that. On second thought, you should press charges. :)
And he did screw up, I’d have punched you in the throat first, it’s quite difficult to block anything when you’re clutching at your windpipe attempting to breathe.
Joe
Delurking due to breach in credibility threshold:
Ummmm, this did not really happen, correct? I want to believe, I really really do, but this one….nahhhh.
Returning now to lurking position…
You might want to adjust your meds. this dose seems to put you in a fightin’ mood. and that’s not a good thing. for you.
So many things wrong here. First, to Em, he certainly does not have a set of balls - he started something he couldn’t finish and now wants to blame the other guy? That’s not balls, that’s being whiny.
This all presupposes, of course, this incident actually occurred. There are several instances of self aggrandizing and exaggeration throughout this blog, who knows what is real? But if this event happened as depicted, Harlan, you got what was coming to you, you started getting physical first. if some off-hand comment made by some jerk weeks ago is still bothering you, you need some serious therapy.