Christmas Party Strategy
Posted by harlan on 19 Dec 2007 at 10:51 am | Tagged as: talking to the void
It may surprise you that when someone mentions any kind of party to me, I’m relieved. Do you know why? Because I know that I don’t have to go to the party. I’m an adult now. I have my own job, my own money, and my own condo. When I was a kid, I was forced to go to parties. And not just parties. I had to go to church. I had to go to pep rallies. And once my mother dragged me to a circus, which was the single worst experience of my life, and not just because I’m deathly afraid of clowns. I don’t want to go into all that. Let’s just say I don’t like it when people are behind me, and leave it at that.
Tomorrow I’ll probably go to the Christmas party. I say “probably” because I don’t want to make any more public promises that will cause me to panic. I’m trying to relax about the whole thing. I’ll probably go to the party, and I’ll probably talk to Jane, and I’ll probably throw up in a plant. Besides, the Sci-Fi channel might have Battlestar Galactica reruns, and I wouldn’t want to miss that.
The party is at the CEO’s gazebo. If I go to the party, here’s what I need to do:
- Arrive early and explore the area to avoid surprises.
- Take dramamine.
- Make sure I sit down next to a wall so that no one can walk behind me. This will help reduce my heart rate to that of a jackrabbit.
- Make a list of things to talk about with Jane. I’m currently reading about birds.
- Don’t have more than one drink. Some people say alcohol relaxes them, but it has the opposite effect on me. I lose my inhibitions a little bit, but as soon as I act on impulse, I become intensely aware of my behavior. So no more than one drink, two tops.
Now that I think about it, I’m better off just talking to Jane at work.
Isolation score: 3
Harlan, if you are only going to have 2 drinks, make then double martini’s.
Seriously, if there is any music going and you can dance at all, ask her to dance and dance with her. Guys who can dance get ass o plenty.
You need to stop trying to plan everything because very rarely will anything turn out exactly the way you’d hoped. Go to the party with no expectations, take things as they come and learn to go with the flow. Have you ever considered a hobby other than the Sci-Fi channel? Get some fresh air or something, it might clear your head a little.
And yes I found your blog from Fatty’s link.
Now there’s two words not usually associated with each other–at least not in my neck of the woods–Christmas party and gazebo. Is it inside a glass dome or will everyone be wearing parkas?
Maybe everyone gets so lit up they don’t notice the cold.
Don’t weasel out of this now, Harlan. You told Jane you’d be there.
Harlan - Jane asked if you were going to the party!! She asked if you were going to the party. Go and as cincy go with the flow. You really are over-thinking everything….
Chilax man… =)
Brush up on your poker rules/terminology, you already know she has an interest in that, good common ground, I believe ESPN has been shoeing reruns of the World Series of Poker at night. Good Luck!(another Fat Cyclist reader)
Hi Harlan. I’m still here, I just stopped commenting for awhile. Thank you for acknowledging me - I like to be appreciated, too!
As for the party, and Jane - nice going! You made yourself go speak to her. And it does sound like she’s a nice person, who is interested in you, too. Just don’t build a whole future on a single conversation, OK?
My only advice for the party is to Try To Relax (not easy for you, I know) and maybe, juuuuust maybe, especially if it’s a weird or deadly dull party AND you feel you can carry it off - ask her if she’d like to leave and go get coffee somewhere. Trust that she’s a nice girl. Trust that it’s OK to not know what to say. (”You can even say “Gee, I don’t know what to talk about - tell me about YOU!”)
(Trust me, women love that stuff).
P.S. How important you are in the business world and how much money you make don’t mean squat when it comes to being brave about relationship. That’s my story and I’m stickin’ with it.
P.P.S. This is why I shouldn’t comment too often - I always end up leaving a book, fer chrissakes…
Does Jane know how much you make? You should tell her at the party; it’ll make you much more attractive.
Unless she makes more than you do, in which case it’ll make you a wimp.
Cincy - I am in Cincy too. How funny is that.
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