Wrong Thing To Say
Posted by harlan on 06 Dec 2007 at 01:16 pm | Tagged as: talking to the void
I couldn’t sleep at all last night. I was replaying, over and over in my mind, my encounter with Jane yesterday.
I can’t believe I said "Hi," when she doesn’t even know me. I should have gone with, "Hello" instead.
The thing is, though, that ship has sailed. Since I said "Hi" last time, I can’t exactly go back to "Hello" the next time I see her, can I?
But it’s clearly too early to move on to something like, "Hey."
She’s probably laughing with her friends about how I said "Hi" to her yesterday, like I’m some kind of greasy leisure-suit wearing lounge lizard, trying to pick her up at the office with the oldest line in the book.
Shit, I shouldn’t have said anything. I should have just nodded.
Dude! No offense, but you are such a loser. Why don’t you put us out of your misery?
Harlan, I have a suggestion for you, and I hope you act on it. Go here:
http://www.landmarkforum.com/
and sign up for The Forum. Just DO it. Drive or fly if you have to, to get there. Don’t go on waiting for someone, or something, to come to YOU. You’ll wake up one day and discover that half your life has passed while you were waiting for something to happen.
No, I’m not part of the Landmark company, and I’m not selling their programs. But I did The Forum myself, back in the 80’s when I was in my 30’s and wondering why my life wasn’t turning out the way I wanted it to. It was life-changing. I met great people (some are still good friends today) and most importantly, I discovered how I was sabotaging myself and what to do about it.
OK, I’m done. The Internet is a weird place, and I have no way of knowing whether this blog is just bait to see who bites, or whether you truly are who you say you are, a man in the very unhappy trap of second-guessing yourself to the point where you are almost paralyzed.
Whatever. I read, and commented, in good faith.
Has any professional ever told you that you are probably very very depressed? Are you anywhere where they have therapists? Even medication might help.
You are hung up on the virginity thing and the relationship thing, but it sounds like your issues run far deeper than that.
Wow! Briget, you ARE old. On the flipside Harlan she probably knows what she’s talking about. You should listen. Mcluvin, you need your ass kicked.
From the point of another gal… she likely didn’t psychoanalyze exactly what you said… that only comes later in a relationship (especially if the girl is worries that you’re a crazy stalker… then EVERYTHING is analyzed). But seriously, don’t sweat the small stuff (yet).
This IS a joke, right?